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If I were to label you as something you're not, or even as someone you used to be... That wouldn't be very nice.
It really is pretty easy to think of things as you would automatically do. And to add up to that, as a quote from the most recent episode of my favorite TV show, Bones, says:
"Truth is, people always think the worst when given the choice."In this show, Bones, that line was spoken by a new intern at the Jeffersonian, Finn Abernathy (he's a looker!). A young Southern chap endowed with much intelligence and knowledge, but unfortunately had spent a few years in juvenile detention. After his release, his records were stripped clean thus he was accepted into the forensic institution. Yet as he does a rather stellar performance in his work, the idea that he may have murdered someone lingers in some of the others' minds. I understand why they would do that, but if he had to do that to them, I'm sure they wouldn't be too fond of that either.
I admit it, I see a little trigger and left to my natural self I would tend to think of negative things right away, especially when I've been familiar to that for a good chunk of my life already. I guess that would also be part of my nature where I usually always expect the worst.
But then again, let's all be fair.
If we continue to think of people negatively, we tend to keep ourselves in a box too. On a personal note, I've recently tried stepping out of that box and I have come to realize that some people who I thought weren't going to click very well with me, actually did, and surprisingly to such an extent where I would ponder, "What was I thinking?"
Those who I thought had already changed forever, actually were still the very same people I knew before, and better yet, with much "upgrades" in their lives too.
So yes, let's all be fair.
But then come to think of this too. One of my good friends, who I look up to, spoke with me a couple weeks ago. As she spoke, I felt as if a stinging slap landed rather hard on my face:
"No matter what other people have done to you, no matter how much they have insulted you, you are all the same. No one is really better than the other. All of us are still growing. Protect yourself and you also have to protect them. How do you do this? Protect your heart and protect your mind."At that, never mind about being fair. I guess it's also doing yourself a huge favor. Keep your walls up if you like, but throwing arrows and bullets rather blindly is definitely not a very good idea.
Even medical textbooks get updates. Subtle changes may be found, but the lastest edition is always of much greater value compared to any old one.
So I guess that's that, for now. Time to study the heart, literally.
~Ella :)
